Wednesday, 17 March 2010

  • return of the ex-and daughter

    Ok, I'm new here.....but let me start with my rather long story. I am buying a house and engaged to a wonderful man who is involved in a rather nasty custody dispute. They have been divorced for years, but this summer his ex wife abducted their child and fled the country. It has been in the news, in the papers, it's rathery messy. It's hard for me and I feel selfish. his whole life is consumed with this international custody battle, and i'm not sure if she's ever going to come back. if she does come back we are going to be faced with raising his daughter, and i'm pretty sure i'm up to the challenge. we've talked openly about my fears (ie...the what if's, what if she hates me, what ifshe resents me, what if i don't get along with her). his daughter did live visit with us last summer for 6 weeks and things went pretty smooth i thought. i left twice for weekend girl getaways to give time to him and his daughter, tried to do "family" type outings to the shore) We're always going to have this ex-wife though who seems hell bent on hurting him as much as she can, for as long as she can. she has even claimed that since he bought me a house she doesn't plan to return unless he does the same for her. I can't imagine what it will be like if we have kids together. But it goes beyond just the ex-factor. I am also dealing with his mom who seems to be rather overbearing. Very nice, and i like her, but almost too involved with everything he does from our house to his parenting skills to everything. she has told me about his relationship with his ex more times then i care to hear. i know every fight they ever had, every piece of furniture that was ever bought, all about their dating lives. everything. i know she did a lot for them but it has totally pushed me away. in short, i'm starting to feel like his past is going to continue to haunr me forever and no matter how good things are with us, i will always have to hear about how bad things were with his ex (not by him, by his mom). he speaks a lot of his daughter, and the things he and her did when he lived with her. i want to make new memories, and a new life (which i hope includes his daughter in our home some day) i just don't know if it's going to happen because of two things: the ex and the mom. are these things going to be able to work through? his ex wife by the way is currently facing charges if she returns....so again....who knows if this will happen? and if it doesn't, then what? can he really go on and want a new life with me when he doesn't have his daughter in it? 

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